Wednesday, December 22, 2010
TwoThousandTen
ACCOMPLISHMENT seemed to be the theme of how the Lord richly blessed our Two Thousand Ten! Jennifer, who'll be 29 on CHRISTmas Eve, graduated from San Joaquin Delta College in May with her Associates Degree in Nursing and is now a Registered Nurse working for St. Joseph's Medical Center (SJMC) in Stockton, CA, where she lives. (SJMC is where Dena and I both worked from 1985 to 1998, before going into full time ministry.) Jennifer's "man" Brandon Zimmerman is a student at San Francisco State University, completing his degree in accounting. That same week in May, Bethany (24) graduated from California State University Long Beach with her Bachelor's Degree in Theater Production. She resides in Huntington Beach, CA and still works for Disneyland, while she seeks employment in theater. Jaye (24) returned home from his 400 day deployment in Iraq with the Army National Guard on September 18th. What a joyous day that was! Our daughter-in-love Nicole (23) greeted him by jumping into his arms, legs fully wrapped around his body. :o) Jaye and Nicole are now expecting and will be making us grandparents next June. YAY!!! Nicole works full time for the University of Phoenix and Jaye just completed his Certification in Personal Training and just landed a job at the LA Fitness near our homes. Jaye and Nicole reside here in Gilbert, AZ, just down the street from us, in our same Power Ranch Community. Jared (22) is our resident Christian Apologist (like mother, like son), still makes and delivers pizza for a living and is a Psychology Student at Chandler-Gilbert Community College. Blythe Jones (20), Jared's "lady," also works in pizza and is an Anthropology Student at the same community college. Jared and Blythe also live close by, here in Gilbert, in Power Ranch. Randy Jr. (18) graduated from Williams Field High School in May (Yes! Three graduations in May!) and is now an on-campus freshman at Grand Canyon University here in Phoenix, completing a Bachelor's Degree in Christian Ministry. Of course, we also have two "adopted" daughters, Theresa Matthews and Stacey Rogers, who are a delight in our lives, with the added joy of my three "adopted" grandsons, Elias Matthews (9), Isaac Rogers (5) and Ben Rogers (4). Although our dog Buddy (8) is now the only "kid" left at home, Dena and I are Empty Nesters and loving every bit of it! I, Randy Sr (48) continue to work full time for www.rockpointchurch.org as Executive Pastor. Additionally, I work very part time for www.convergesouthwest.org as Church Planting Coaching Coordinator, www.albertsonsllc.com as Certified Diabetes Care Pharmacist and www.medtronicdiabetes.com as a Certified Product Trainer. Dena (48) works full time in the home, with her primary responsibility now being ME! :o) We are so proud of ALL of our children and grandchildren as they all love the Lord! For pictures, please check out my or Dena's or any of the kids' Facebook pages. Merry CHRISTmas and Happy New Year! We love you!
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Results.Relationship.Recovery.
We loved you so much that we gave you not only God's Good News but our own lives, too. Don't you remember, dear brothers and sisters, how hard we worked among you? Night and day we toiled to earn a living so that our expenses would not be a burden to anyone there as we preached God's Good News among you. - 1 Thessalonians 2:8-9 (NLT)
On my spiritual journey right now, with my mentor, I am working through the Celebrate Recovery Step Studies. I am recovering from being driven by performance, control and perfectionism, which are rooted in my co-dependency. On the dependency continuum, between the one extreme of non-dependency to the other extreme of co-dependency, I am working really hard to live generously in the middle at inter-dependency. I have learned that the difference between loving people and co-depending people is a matter of the motive of my heart. Loving people is selflessly choosing to help, whereas co-depending people is selfishly helping out of obligation or guilt. As a co-dependent, I have rescued people, only to resent them and punish them later when they chose to not remain liberated.
How this plays out in my leadership of others is that I am learning to balance, therefore, the tension between results and relationship. I admit that there have been times when my desire to see something accomplished meant that I was willing to sacrifice relationship with people. As a servant leader, I am understanding more and more that developing people is best accomplished through relationship. No more using others to satisfy my need to prove myself. In the bible passage above, Paul followed Jesus’ example, investing relationally in the lives of others, in order to help them realize their God-given potential and accomplish their God-given goals. I commit to following Jesus' example too! I choose to grow! Juzsayin...
On my spiritual journey right now, with my mentor, I am working through the Celebrate Recovery Step Studies. I am recovering from being driven by performance, control and perfectionism, which are rooted in my co-dependency. On the dependency continuum, between the one extreme of non-dependency to the other extreme of co-dependency, I am working really hard to live generously in the middle at inter-dependency. I have learned that the difference between loving people and co-depending people is a matter of the motive of my heart. Loving people is selflessly choosing to help, whereas co-depending people is selfishly helping out of obligation or guilt. As a co-dependent, I have rescued people, only to resent them and punish them later when they chose to not remain liberated.
How this plays out in my leadership of others is that I am learning to balance, therefore, the tension between results and relationship. I admit that there have been times when my desire to see something accomplished meant that I was willing to sacrifice relationship with people. As a servant leader, I am understanding more and more that developing people is best accomplished through relationship. No more using others to satisfy my need to prove myself. In the bible passage above, Paul followed Jesus’ example, investing relationally in the lives of others, in order to help them realize their God-given potential and accomplish their God-given goals. I commit to following Jesus' example too! I choose to grow! Juzsayin...
Monday, September 20, 2010
MY CUP OVERFLOWS!
This last weekend, I know just what David felt when he wrote the 23rd Psalm. "The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; MY CUP OVERFLOWS. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD." Saturday afternoon at the 161st Air Wing Hangar at Phoenix Sky Harbor, we celebrated the homecoming of our son, Private First Class Jaye Christopher Deal, after his one year deployment in Iraq with the 855th Military Police Company of the Army National Guard. By "we" I mean our family and friends and our Home Group were ALL there. Words are so inadequate to describe the pride I felt as a father and as an American citizen! Then, if that wasn't emotional enough, Sunday afternoon, with 340 Rock Pointers cheering and celebrating, Pastors Bill, Josh, John and I, along with many other Dads, Moms and entire Home Groups, baptized over 60 people! Tears of JOY are still streaming down my face! MY CUP OVERFLOWS! Juzsayin...
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Spiritual Roller Coaster Ride
Online Devotional from www.leadlikejesus.com...juz sayin....
Spiritual stability is a key factor for those who lead others. However, emotions and circumstances often take us for a spiritual roller coaster ride. We are encouraged when we see the Lord's hand at work, but that can quickly diminish when things change for the worse. During hard times, we often suffer from spiritual forgetfulness - soon doubts, fears and questions arise. In those moments we must remember God's promises and His presence with us. When we choose faith over fear, we can stand firm and move forward knowing the Lord is at work in our behalf.
Then they believed His promises and sang His praise. But they soon forgot what He had done and did not wait for His counsel. In the desert they gave in to their craving; in the wasteland they put God to the test. Psalm 106:12-14
Prayer: Dear Lord, You have always seen me through the storms of life. Help me recall those moments when I face trying times. I choose faith over fear today. In Jesus' Name, Amen!
Spiritual stability is a key factor for those who lead others. However, emotions and circumstances often take us for a spiritual roller coaster ride. We are encouraged when we see the Lord's hand at work, but that can quickly diminish when things change for the worse. During hard times, we often suffer from spiritual forgetfulness - soon doubts, fears and questions arise. In those moments we must remember God's promises and His presence with us. When we choose faith over fear, we can stand firm and move forward knowing the Lord is at work in our behalf.
Then they believed His promises and sang His praise. But they soon forgot what He had done and did not wait for His counsel. In the desert they gave in to their craving; in the wasteland they put God to the test. Psalm 106:12-14
Prayer: Dear Lord, You have always seen me through the storms of life. Help me recall those moments when I face trying times. I choose faith over fear today. In Jesus' Name, Amen!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
LEADING WITH A LIMP by Dan B. Allender
From Book Review at http://www.amazon.com/Leading-Limp-Advantage-Powerful-Weakness/dp/1578569524
"Leading is never easy--whether it is in business, family, or church. Leading can be a thankless job, and the chances are someone is going to angry with you and might even hate you. "It is through leading that I've known the greatest need for a deep, personal, and abiding relationship with Jesus."
To be an effective leader we must face our weaknesses and not hide them. Allowing our weakness to show will bring respect among those you lead. Acknowledging our weaknesses allows us to utilize the gifts/tools God has given us. We can learn to allow others to use their talents by delegating and working closely with others. God uses the most unlikely. The best leaders seem to be the ones that flee from the call to leadership and then submit to God's will by returning to follow the call. For those are the leaders that are not after personal gain but are God-centered.
Dan Allender points that God calls all followers to lead. The capacity in which you lead will vary from another's. A mother leads her children. A Pastor leads his congregation. "Every leader must count the cost of leadership, and the cost includes six realities: crisis, complexity, betrayal, loneliness, weariness, and glory." Serving God makes it all worth it.
Leading With A Limp by Dan B. Allender, PHD is written in simple, easy- to- understand terms. He approaches leadership from a stance I had never heard before. His ideas make sense. This book came to me at just the right moment. I was facing a leadership position that I knew would be very difficult. With the information present in Leading With A Limp, I pray that I can be an effective leader and serve God. I think all leaders ,whether in business, family or church, will benefit from Leading With A Limp."
Although I was not facing a leadership position, but a very difficult leadership decision, I could not have said it better myself! Dr. Allender's book, Leading with a Limp, has been life channging for me any my leadership capacity. Get the book! Juz sayin...
"Leading is never easy--whether it is in business, family, or church. Leading can be a thankless job, and the chances are someone is going to angry with you and might even hate you. "It is through leading that I've known the greatest need for a deep, personal, and abiding relationship with Jesus."
To be an effective leader we must face our weaknesses and not hide them. Allowing our weakness to show will bring respect among those you lead. Acknowledging our weaknesses allows us to utilize the gifts/tools God has given us. We can learn to allow others to use their talents by delegating and working closely with others. God uses the most unlikely. The best leaders seem to be the ones that flee from the call to leadership and then submit to God's will by returning to follow the call. For those are the leaders that are not after personal gain but are God-centered.
Dan Allender points that God calls all followers to lead. The capacity in which you lead will vary from another's. A mother leads her children. A Pastor leads his congregation. "Every leader must count the cost of leadership, and the cost includes six realities: crisis, complexity, betrayal, loneliness, weariness, and glory." Serving God makes it all worth it.
Leading With A Limp by Dan B. Allender, PHD is written in simple, easy- to- understand terms. He approaches leadership from a stance I had never heard before. His ideas make sense. This book came to me at just the right moment. I was facing a leadership position that I knew would be very difficult. With the information present in Leading With A Limp, I pray that I can be an effective leader and serve God. I think all leaders ,whether in business, family or church, will benefit from Leading With A Limp."
Although I was not facing a leadership position, but a very difficult leadership decision, I could not have said it better myself! Dr. Allender's book, Leading with a Limp, has been life channging for me any my leadership capacity. Get the book! Juz sayin...
Thursday, June 24, 2010
TO INFINITY AND BEYOND!
TO INFINITY AND BEYOND! That's exactly where my Father's Day went this last Sunday when I had the incredible privilege to preach at www.rockpointchurch.org with both my son and my Dad! Generation Deal x 3 brought the message of "Eldad, Medad and MyDad" from Numbers Chapter 11 in Part 3 of our "insignificant" message series. Thank you Dad for the legacy of Jesus! By His Spirit, God has uniquely gifted believers to live a life of significance! Our gifts are to be used to equip and build up the church, sometimes in a unique way, and when we use our gifts, people see our uniqueness. You can go to http://rockpointchurch.org/index.php/resources-mainmenunew-245/weekly-messages-2010/338 for the message outline, the Sharpen The Point devotional and the full audio and video. My cup is still running over with God's blessing from such an emotional day, which was followed up with a delicious 16 oz rib eye at www.texasroadhouse.com (my Dad's favorite) and experiencing www.disney.go.com/ToyStory3 with my family, including my "adopted" grandsons Elias, Isaac and Ben. Love those boys! God is so AMAZINGLY good! I'm juz sayin...
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Don’t Allow Your Past To Be Your Prison!!!
Posted: 17 Jun 2010 04:43 AM PDT from www.perrynoble.com
I see it all the time…I will be on stage teaching about God’s love, His unbelievable grace…how He forgives and through Christ has an amazing plan for our lives…
Then I see him/her…that person in the crowd that has that look on their face that says, “I really want to believe what you are saying…but I can’t because…” And then comes the list of how wicked they’ve been and how they are probably the only exception to the fact the Bible says God completely forgives.
Reality is…God has an amazing plan for your life right now. Unfortunately, too many people are too close to their past to fully understand their potential…how gifted by God they really are!
When we embrace who Christ is…what He’s done…and what He’s called us to do (confess His name and repent of sin) then the possibilities are unlimited as to what Christ can do in and through us.
He’s NOT through with you! He’s still got a plan and purpose for you…don’t allow your past to be the prison that prevents you from the amazing potential that is yours in Christ.
If you don’t let your past die then it won’t let you live! Whatever happened….God KNEW it was going to happen before He ever created you…He’s NOT surprised by it, still loves you and still wants great things for you.
So…confess, repent…and when the devil comes at you with your past then bawl up your fist and punch him in the freakin’ throat!
“I don’t have time to maintain these regrets!”
LIVE!
Posted: 17 Jun 2010 04:43 AM PDT from www.perrynoble.com
I see it all the time…I will be on stage teaching about God’s love, His unbelievable grace…how He forgives and through Christ has an amazing plan for our lives…
Then I see him/her…that person in the crowd that has that look on their face that says, “I really want to believe what you are saying…but I can’t because…” And then comes the list of how wicked they’ve been and how they are probably the only exception to the fact the Bible says God completely forgives.
Reality is…God has an amazing plan for your life right now. Unfortunately, too many people are too close to their past to fully understand their potential…how gifted by God they really are!
When we embrace who Christ is…what He’s done…and what He’s called us to do (confess His name and repent of sin) then the possibilities are unlimited as to what Christ can do in and through us.
He’s NOT through with you! He’s still got a plan and purpose for you…don’t allow your past to be the prison that prevents you from the amazing potential that is yours in Christ.
If you don’t let your past die then it won’t let you live! Whatever happened….God KNEW it was going to happen before He ever created you…He’s NOT surprised by it, still loves you and still wants great things for you.
So…confess, repent…and when the devil comes at you with your past then bawl up your fist and punch him in the freakin’ throat!
“I don’t have time to maintain these regrets!”
LIVE!
Sunday, June 13, 2010
http://jasoncurlee.com/2010/06/12/planning-your-week-with-goals/
I agree completely, especially about making lists! Loves me some lists! I'm juz sayin... http://jasoncurlee.com/2010/06/12/planning-your-week-with-goals/
NO DUMPING
Back on February 11th of this year, my beautiful younger sister Becky shared this story with me that she had read: "One day I was riding with a friend. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My friend slammed on his breaks, skidded and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My buddy just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly. So I asked, "Why did you just do that? That guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" That is when my friend taught me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck." He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets. The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, So... "Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't." Life is ten percent of what you make it and ninety percent of how you take it!" In the greatest message of all time, Jesus said in Matthew 5:3-12, "Blessed are the poor in spirit,for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn,for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek,for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful,for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart,for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. "Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you." In this fallen world we live in, it is inevitable that we will be dumped on, but how can we turn the The Law of the Garbage Truck into the Law of the Blessings Truck? I'm juz sayin...
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
What does a yellow light mean?
Thirty years ago on September 25, 1979, the sitcom TAXI aired it's episode entitled "Reverend Jim: A Space Odyssey." The highlight of that episode, and one of the funniest moments in sitcom history and all of American network television, was when the bum Reverend Jim Ignatowski (played by Christopher Lloyd), was taking his Driver's License test. He read the first question out loud, "What does a yellow light mean?" His fellow cabbies answer him with "slow down," only for him to reply with a slowed version of the same question... "What... does... a... yellow... light... mean?" and so on and so on. You can watch it @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvn-tBeLpCk Hilarious! Pastor James, the brother of Jesus, reminded me today in my Quiet Time in James 1:19-20 (NASB): This you know, my beloved brethren but everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. In the matter of speed, sometimes I need to act quickly and sometimes I need to SLOW DOWN! Lately, more than ever before, God is revealing to me that in many of my relationships I have been slow to listen and quick to speak and quick to anger. Thank You Holy Spirit for convicting me. I am choosing to surrender to Your leadership, Holy Spirit, as You mature my heart and make me more like Jesus.
How about you? Like me, have you been speeding too?
How about you? Like me, have you been speeding too?
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Viral Churches
At EXPONENTIAL ’10, I had the privilege of hearing Ed Stetzer in his workshop entitled Viral Churches: Helping Church Planters Become Movement Makers, also the title of his and Warren Bird’s new book. Based on a study that was commissioned by the Leadership Network, Ed reveals the best practices in church planting and uncovers the common threads among them. Be inspired to plant churches that create a multiplication movement. Discover what to do next in your church planting strategies, in light of research on what's actually working best.
My notes from the workshop: NEW CHURCHES PLANT NEW CHURCHES! Be an "Antioch" Church; we have enough "Jerusalem Churches!" Don’t just plant a tree, plant an orchard! Movement Makers do these eight things: 1) MULTIPLY EVERYTHING! Disciples, Home Groups, Ministries, Churches. Everything must be reproducible! What’s alive gets multiplied! i.e. Multi-site: easy to add sites, need more of Lead Pastors; 2) MODEL MULTIPLICATION! Godly leaders produce Godly leaders! Real MISSIONAL ministry is messy because it involves marginalized people! Bad people make good soil; 3) BE BORN PREGNANT! Plant within one year! Plant when you grow by 25%! Send your BEST people out; 4) OPEN MORE LANES! Can’t pay your way to a Church Multiplication Movement! Bi-Vocational is an option. House churches. Ethnic works. There are different approaches; 5) GIVE PERMISSION! Tools not rules! Systems. Structures. There are planters among the people of your church; 6) OVERCOME FEAR! Have it? Yes! But God’s love casts out all fear! Do not consider it a success unless it multiplies; 7) DEFINE MISSIONAL WELL! New Testament missional multiplies! Join God on His mission: locally, nationally & globally. Faithfully engage culture; 8) PLANT BY MULTIPLICATION & NOT ONLY BY FUNDING! Don’t “tip” multiplication and say it’s the Great Commission.
Planting is like having a baby; it’s bloody, messy & painful, but you want to do it over and over again! Now reading the book. Get it! :o) Randy
My notes from the workshop: NEW CHURCHES PLANT NEW CHURCHES! Be an "Antioch" Church; we have enough "Jerusalem Churches!" Don’t just plant a tree, plant an orchard! Movement Makers do these eight things: 1) MULTIPLY EVERYTHING! Disciples, Home Groups, Ministries, Churches. Everything must be reproducible! What’s alive gets multiplied! i.e. Multi-site: easy to add sites, need more of Lead Pastors; 2) MODEL MULTIPLICATION! Godly leaders produce Godly leaders! Real MISSIONAL ministry is messy because it involves marginalized people! Bad people make good soil; 3) BE BORN PREGNANT! Plant within one year! Plant when you grow by 25%! Send your BEST people out; 4) OPEN MORE LANES! Can’t pay your way to a Church Multiplication Movement! Bi-Vocational is an option. House churches. Ethnic works. There are different approaches; 5) GIVE PERMISSION! Tools not rules! Systems. Structures. There are planters among the people of your church; 6) OVERCOME FEAR! Have it? Yes! But God’s love casts out all fear! Do not consider it a success unless it multiplies; 7) DEFINE MISSIONAL WELL! New Testament missional multiplies! Join God on His mission: locally, nationally & globally. Faithfully engage culture; 8) PLANT BY MULTIPLICATION & NOT ONLY BY FUNDING! Don’t “tip” multiplication and say it’s the Great Commission.
Planting is like having a baby; it’s bloody, messy & painful, but you want to do it over and over again! Now reading the book. Get it! :o) Randy
Saturday, May 1, 2010
What I learned from Bob Harrington about Coaching Church Planters @ Exponential ‘10
In Mark 8:27-30, Jesus was COACHING! In I Thessalonians 2:11-12, Paul was COACHING!
There are 5 ways people learn: 1) Dictating: tell what to do; 2) Teaching: give info so knows what to do; 3) Mentoring: sharing experience so knows what to do; 4) COACHING: coming alongside, asking questions to draw out answers and decisions and 5) Releasing: letting people go assuming know what to do. A Mentor is one who’s gone ahead and pours back into someone else, but a COACH is one who comes alongside and draws out. Mentoring and Coaching are VERY different! Consulting and COACHING are also very different. A Consultant is an expert role, sets the agenda, gives solutions and is content-driven. A Coach has experise in asking good questions, helps articulate goals and is process-driven.
The 5 R’s of Highly Effective Coaching are 1) Relate: ask about personal/church life; who vs. what; 2) Reflect: share top struggles; 3) Refocus: top 3 areas where need help; 4) Resource: ask for insight in these top 3 areas and 5) Review: review top ideas, suggestions and GOALS!
There are 4 types of effecting Coaching Relationships: 1) One-on-One: where special attention is needed, helpful for emerging leaders; 2) Triads/Trios: increased care and attention, peer-to-peer maximized; 3) Clusters: requires group dynamic leadership, time intensive for individual focus, involves 4-7 leaders; and 4) Groups: involves 8-16 leaders.
Most Church Planters are doing something they have NEVER done before! They need guidance from a Coach who’s done it before. They need help and accountability to be all that they can be! They need a Coach who knows them well and can encourage them to be the best. Church Planters don’t know what NORMAL is; they need someone who does! They feel all alone and need an unconditional supporter. Coached Church Planters are far more successful!
Six Key Things for Coaching Church Planters:
1. Planter must find & receive a Good Coach. Coach should have planted a church himself, so when necessary can serve as a mentor too.
2. Coach needs basic training in the science of coaching and how to utilize effective coaching strategies.
3. Establish a Coaching Covenant/Contract: weekly call 45-60 minutes during pre-launch and for 12 months after launch (emails and resource material beyond that).
4. Coach should visit location and launch team before launch and within 12 months after the launch.
5. Chemistry: planter should know coach really cares for him and that coach will be there for him in a crisis. If chemistry not good, planter needs different coach. Challenge: Planters have never been in a situation before where they were their own boss! Esp. in finances and time management!
6. Predictor of Success: coach with personal success in church planting will sense success or failure. He will often become the key link between the planter and the personal support, guidance, and mentoring that marks the difference between success and failure in a church plant.
There are 5 ways people learn: 1) Dictating: tell what to do; 2) Teaching: give info so knows what to do; 3) Mentoring: sharing experience so knows what to do; 4) COACHING: coming alongside, asking questions to draw out answers and decisions and 5) Releasing: letting people go assuming know what to do. A Mentor is one who’s gone ahead and pours back into someone else, but a COACH is one who comes alongside and draws out. Mentoring and Coaching are VERY different! Consulting and COACHING are also very different. A Consultant is an expert role, sets the agenda, gives solutions and is content-driven. A Coach has experise in asking good questions, helps articulate goals and is process-driven.
The 5 R’s of Highly Effective Coaching are 1) Relate: ask about personal/church life; who vs. what; 2) Reflect: share top struggles; 3) Refocus: top 3 areas where need help; 4) Resource: ask for insight in these top 3 areas and 5) Review: review top ideas, suggestions and GOALS!
There are 4 types of effecting Coaching Relationships: 1) One-on-One: where special attention is needed, helpful for emerging leaders; 2) Triads/Trios: increased care and attention, peer-to-peer maximized; 3) Clusters: requires group dynamic leadership, time intensive for individual focus, involves 4-7 leaders; and 4) Groups: involves 8-16 leaders.
Most Church Planters are doing something they have NEVER done before! They need guidance from a Coach who’s done it before. They need help and accountability to be all that they can be! They need a Coach who knows them well and can encourage them to be the best. Church Planters don’t know what NORMAL is; they need someone who does! They feel all alone and need an unconditional supporter. Coached Church Planters are far more successful!
Six Key Things for Coaching Church Planters:
1. Planter must find & receive a Good Coach. Coach should have planted a church himself, so when necessary can serve as a mentor too.
2. Coach needs basic training in the science of coaching and how to utilize effective coaching strategies.
3. Establish a Coaching Covenant/Contract: weekly call 45-60 minutes during pre-launch and for 12 months after launch (emails and resource material beyond that).
4. Coach should visit location and launch team before launch and within 12 months after the launch.
5. Chemistry: planter should know coach really cares for him and that coach will be there for him in a crisis. If chemistry not good, planter needs different coach. Challenge: Planters have never been in a situation before where they were their own boss! Esp. in finances and time management!
6. Predictor of Success: coach with personal success in church planting will sense success or failure. He will often become the key link between the planter and the personal support, guidance, and mentoring that marks the difference between success and failure in a church plant.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
What Kem Meyer taught me about (Church) Communication @ Exponential ‘10
Less Clutter, Less Noise! We are in the business of persuasion! It's NOT what you say; it's what people hear! Are people letting you in or shutting you out? IT’S NOT OUR JOB TO SEND THE RIGHT MESSAGE, BUT TO RELEASE THE RIGHT RESPONSE! Three principles to follow: 1) Check your ego! We overestimate what we say and we underestimate how if effects others! Do I care more about what I have to say than the person I’m saying it to? What am I motivated by? It's about the WHO, not the WHAT! It’s less about what you have to say and MORE about others! 2) Get an Image Consultant! Sometimes the picture we are drawing is not saying what we think it is! 3) Keep It Simple! Our brain focuses on surviving the moment! Are we bombarding people with too much information and too many decisions? The more elements there are, the less importance each one has! For example, Yahoo vs. Google. Minimizing options maximizes response! "A generation ago the question was, ' What's the truth?' Now it's, 'What's the point?'" Billy Graham
What Kem Meyer Taught Me About Church Social Networking @ Exponential '10
Everything is social! Your website is NOT an online brochure! When you stop learning, you forget what you already know. Everyone follows a sequenced process before trusting; they 1) ask questions, 2) search Google, 3) check the brand’s website and 4) check reviews. Must be strategic to help people move up the “Trust Ladder.” We must shift our M.O. from OUT to IN: from publicize to connect, from control to cultivate, from push to personalize, from censure to coach, from capture to liberate, from prescribe to influence, from fear to wonder, from conform to channel, from sending to releasing right response, from feedback to ways to provide service, from broadcast communication to techniques for listening spaces. Watch and learn; lerking is okay! Help people connect; don’t just advertise! Keep it simple! Teach your offline networks to go online and your online networks to go offline! CHATTER MATTERS! Honesty is more important than expertise. Social Networking is REAL TIME sharing! The goal is interaction not information!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Random Gleanings from Exponential '10
From Mark Batterson: The chief end of man is to glorify God! Minister TO the Lord not FOR the Lord! Have a God-sized VISION beyond your resources! Vision defines budget; budget does NOT define vision! If you don't turn God's blessings into praise, they turn into pride! It’s not about WHERE you are going; it’s about WHO you are becoming! Sometimes God gets IN the way to SHOW us the way!
From Matt Chandler: The GOSPEL is our ONLY message! Preach the gospel, not moralistic deism! The cul-de-sac of stupidity is loving your city without the Gospel! Alienation from God leads to Hostility of Mind which leads to Evil Deeds! Find new ways to preach the old, old story! We've been saved FROM sin and TO mission! Quit asking people to do what you won't do! Your church is weak where you are weak! Be ON MISSION! LOVE and KNOW the cross of Jesus Christ and His resurrection!!!
From Francis Chan: Who in your church has actually MADE a disciple? Does my life look like Jesus? Would anyone every say, “The day I spent with Randy was the closest experience of what it would be like to walk with Jesus!”? When you are alone with the Word of God, do you read “have a church service” or do you ready “make disciples”? The older we get, the safer in our faith we become! Will people ever say about your church, “I’ve never seen LOVE like that before!” or “I’ve never seen UNITY like that before!” or “I’ve never seen FORGIVENESS like that before!”? What is your church KNOWN for?
From Louie Giglio: The Acts 2 Church DID NOT KNOW what an Acts 2 Church was! All they had was 1) the Teachings of Jesus, 2) the Eye Witness of the Resurrection and 3) the Power of the Holy Spirit! We have what they had! Don't get your vocabulary from the latest book! Transformation happens IN the Word, AT the Cross and BY the Power of Holy Spirit! Do I put the Word of God in front of people well? FREE me, God, from walking by sight and not by faith!
From Matt Chandler: The GOSPEL is our ONLY message! Preach the gospel, not moralistic deism! The cul-de-sac of stupidity is loving your city without the Gospel! Alienation from God leads to Hostility of Mind which leads to Evil Deeds! Find new ways to preach the old, old story! We've been saved FROM sin and TO mission! Quit asking people to do what you won't do! Your church is weak where you are weak! Be ON MISSION! LOVE and KNOW the cross of Jesus Christ and His resurrection!!!
From Francis Chan: Who in your church has actually MADE a disciple? Does my life look like Jesus? Would anyone every say, “The day I spent with Randy was the closest experience of what it would be like to walk with Jesus!”? When you are alone with the Word of God, do you read “have a church service” or do you ready “make disciples”? The older we get, the safer in our faith we become! Will people ever say about your church, “I’ve never seen LOVE like that before!” or “I’ve never seen UNITY like that before!” or “I’ve never seen FORGIVENESS like that before!”? What is your church KNOWN for?
From Louie Giglio: The Acts 2 Church DID NOT KNOW what an Acts 2 Church was! All they had was 1) the Teachings of Jesus, 2) the Eye Witness of the Resurrection and 3) the Power of the Holy Spirit! We have what they had! Don't get your vocabulary from the latest book! Transformation happens IN the Word, AT the Cross and BY the Power of Holy Spirit! Do I put the Word of God in front of people well? FREE me, God, from walking by sight and not by faith!
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